Monthly Archives: June 2013

Gratitude


Continuing the exercise I have set myself to re-read and blog my results from reading Creating A Bug Free Mind and Using A Bug Free Mind by Andy Shaw.

For years now since I started getting interested in personal development/self help stuff I have been hearing about gratitude and appreciation. I suppose the most popular example of that was with the publication of The Secret movie and book. The idea of it made sense to me although it didn’t seem to make much difference in my life in the areas that needed changing. Even more powerful than The Secret (at least I thought so) was the teachings of Abraham-Hicks delivered by Esther Hicks regarding gratitude. She makes a distinction between gratitude and appreciation. In some cases gratitude might make you feel you owe somebody something e.g. if you are grateful for help received, whereas appreciation is more of a feeling of gratitude to yourself with no dependence on anyone else. It is a small but important distinction. But I am not saying that there is something wrong with gratitude, absolutely not. In a lot of ways we are all dependent on others to a greater or lesser degree.

I recently completed another course in personal development/financial freedom, recommended by Andy Shaw. It was with the Catchfire University and it was a great course and there were a number of firsts for me, really taking me out of my comfort zone. Making videos of myself speaking for example and uploading them to facebook! I really never thought I would ever do that. And of course the subject of gratitude made its appearance. The content of this part of the course was good but obvious. However, they had a really good trick up their sleeve which was not at all obvious at the beginning. The assignment was to make a video about gratitude and post it up on the class page on facebook. Simple you might say. They added however that it had to be creative, so another video of me speaking was not on, it had to be something different. I racked my brains for a few days considering how I was going to do this. The others in the class began posting their videos. Voila! Inspiration! I did a quick bit of research on Windows Movie Maker and realized that all I had to do was get a selection of photos of stuff that represented what I was grateful for in my life and drag them onto the timeline of the program, add a soundtrack and hey presto, movie made, video done, assignment complete. Eat your heart out, video virgins who’ve never done this before, the Murph got it together.

The unexpected then happened. As I sifted through the various photos and music, I really had to think this through. I had to really think about what I was grateful for. It started with material things like the usual house, car, job. It quickly started to move in the direction of the things that really do make a difference, the peace and quiet of where I live, the walks along the river, and then of course……the people in my life. This is where it got interesting; it really got the emotions going. By the time I watched the completed video I was bawling like a spoilt child. I’ll tell you one thing though, it really sorted out the 15 seconds of positive thoughts thing. I used to have to really make an effort for that to become something emotional, energy charged. Not anymore. I just look at my 4 minute video about what I am grateful for and I’m there within a few seconds. What’s more, it stays with me. I just have to think about it and I’m back there feeling the gratitude and appreciation especially for all the people in my life. It’s had such an impact on me that I decided to share it here with all you fellow blog readers and abfmr’s out there. You might find something to inspire you – if you’re having any trouble getting or remaining in a positive state of mind I highly recommend doing something similar. Just for yourself.

Click the link to watch the video.

Gerrys Gratitude Movie

Until Next Time
All Things Considered
Gerry Murphy

Carrot & Stick, Pain & Pleasure – Do we need one, the other, or both?


Continuing the exercise I have set myself to re-read and blog my results from reading Creating A Bug Free Mind and Using A Bug Free Mind by Andy Shaw.

Carrot and StickAm I happy? Well, yes and no. Yes, I am doing “some” of the things I want to do. I enjoy most aspects of my life and work. I have a wonderful family and a great group of friends that I love and trust. I have taken steps to improve my health and fitness levels and I’m tackling a weight problem. I think you can see some qualifiers in there! Having read this far in Andy’s books and having gone to the Life Design Getaway day and met Andy, I realize that I am skirting around the edges in some things.

If I am not living a fulfilling life, if there are areas I am not satisfied with and things about myself that I am not happy with then I am feeling pain. That discomfort in the pit of my stomach when I think about an issue, a situation, especially if I believe there is nothing I can do about it in the present moment. This sort of thing eats away at me until I do something about it. But a lot of the time it stays buried. This is where the stick comes in. In this case the stick is required to help me realize there is pain and that enough is enough. I can use the stick approach to get myself to shift my energy to get something done about the pain, come to a decision, get help or whatever. I can allow myself to get irritated, or angry, even very angry – as long as I don’t stay there. Sometimes this is the best way for me to actually move up a step on the spiritual ladder, or move a step closer to making a dream come true, or to realize and achieve a goal. It seems counterproductive to some of the things we read today, but this type of anger or irritation can sometimes be good energy that is needed at the time to get things moving again if they have become stagnant.

Once I got some momentum towards the goal then the pain reduced and eventually was eliminated. At this point it was important for me to realize that a new level of “normal” had been achieved and needs to be maintained and this is where visualization and positive affirmations, meditation and all the other good stuff from ABFM and others helps. Whereas it has not helped previously when I was stuck in my comfort zone with underlying issues. I could do all the positive stuff all day long but if my underlying vibration was being influenced by lack, pain or any other negative or hidden issues then I was suffering a serious bug in my mind that needed to be removed before I could progress.

As Andy says, a problem is nothing more than a choice. I choose to say yes to what is – by doing that it allows any underlying issues to come to the surface where I can deal with them.  I believe this is what Andy means when he says that: “You must learn to read with your whole body, think with your whole body, listen with your whole body, sit with your whole body, be where you are with your whole body.”

“Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.”
Kahlil Gibran

Andy says: “Pain cannot feed on joy. So if you want rid of pain, then it is simple… be happy!!”
I had read this previously and thought that by ignoring deep issues and just telling myself that I was happy would take care of it. Not so! I had to get really really honest with what was going on inside my head before I could truly say I am happy.

So, am I happy? Right now I still say yes and no. I have recognized the need to dig where it hurts and remove the bugs. There are still some there. I just need to keep shining a light where before I didn’t want to look. I look forward to the time – soon – when I can say, yes, I am truly happy. I have to give up resistance to what is, accept there is going to be a time for truth and forgiveness and arrive fully into a state of true happiness and joy.

“Resistance is futile!”
The Borg

 

Until Next Time
All Things Considered.
Gerry Murphy