Carrot & Stick, Pain & Pleasure – Do we need one, the other, or both?

Continuing the exercise I have set myself to re-read and blog my results from reading Creating A Bug Free Mind and Using A Bug Free Mind by Andy Shaw.

Carrot and StickAm I happy? Well, yes and no. Yes, I am doing “some” of the things I want to do. I enjoy most aspects of my life and work. I have a wonderful family and a great group of friends that I love and trust. I have taken steps to improve my health and fitness levels and I’m tackling a weight problem. I think you can see some qualifiers in there! Having read this far in Andy’s books and having gone to the Life Design Getaway day and met Andy, I realize that I am skirting around the edges in some things.

If I am not living a fulfilling life, if there are areas I am not satisfied with and things about myself that I am not happy with then I am feeling pain. That discomfort in the pit of my stomach when I think about an issue, a situation, especially if I believe there is nothing I can do about it in the present moment. This sort of thing eats away at me until I do something about it. But a lot of the time it stays buried. This is where the stick comes in. In this case the stick is required to help me realize there is pain and that enough is enough. I can use the stick approach to get myself to shift my energy to get something done about the pain, come to a decision, get help or whatever. I can allow myself to get irritated, or angry, even very angry – as long as I don’t stay there. Sometimes this is the best way for me to actually move up a step on the spiritual ladder, or move a step closer to making a dream come true, or to realize and achieve a goal. It seems counterproductive to some of the things we read today, but this type of anger or irritation can sometimes be good energy that is needed at the time to get things moving again if they have become stagnant.

Once I got some momentum towards the goal then the pain reduced and eventually was eliminated. At this point it was important for me to realize that a new level of “normal” had been achieved and needs to be maintained and this is where visualization and positive affirmations, meditation and all the other good stuff from ABFM and others helps. Whereas it has not helped previously when I was stuck in my comfort zone with underlying issues. I could do all the positive stuff all day long but if my underlying vibration was being influenced by lack, pain or any other negative or hidden issues then I was suffering a serious bug in my mind that needed to be removed before I could progress.

As Andy says, a problem is nothing more than a choice. I choose to say yes to what is – by doing that it allows any underlying issues to come to the surface where I can deal with them.  I believe this is what Andy means when he says that: “You must learn to read with your whole body, think with your whole body, listen with your whole body, sit with your whole body, be where you are with your whole body.”

“Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding.”
Kahlil Gibran

Andy says: “Pain cannot feed on joy. So if you want rid of pain, then it is simple… be happy!!”
I had read this previously and thought that by ignoring deep issues and just telling myself that I was happy would take care of it. Not so! I had to get really really honest with what was going on inside my head before I could truly say I am happy.

So, am I happy? Right now I still say yes and no. I have recognized the need to dig where it hurts and remove the bugs. There are still some there. I just need to keep shining a light where before I didn’t want to look. I look forward to the time – soon – when I can say, yes, I am truly happy. I have to give up resistance to what is, accept there is going to be a time for truth and forgiveness and arrive fully into a state of true happiness and joy.

“Resistance is futile!”
The Borg


Until Next Time
All Things Considered.
Gerry Murphy

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